Why Grandma Can't Pick Up the Baby
By S. M. Macrae and Karleen Gribble
Newly adopted children often arrive into our families stressed by the transition and confused as to what family is and what’s special about parents. It’s a two-way thing–we also need time to learn our new children! We need also to have courage and knowledge to tell people in our circle of
friends and family what we know to be best for this, our child. Here are some tried and tested bonding tips. If friends and family protest, print this sheet and give it to them.
Becoming familiar rather than strange takes time, but the bond forged will last a lifetime. Some families use visual aids to help their children understand the ‘circle of love’. Draw your child at the heart of concentric circles with those on the outside furthest from your close family relationship, where kisses and cuddles are permitted. Think up your version of this! Display it on the fridge – and live it for real. Show it to doubting friends and family. They– like your child – will get it!
Sheena Macrae PhD and from Karleen Gribble BRurSc, PhD, Adjunct Research
Fellow in the School of Nursing, Family and Community Health at the
University of Western Sydney, NSW, Australia and adoptive mom.
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