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Getting Your Toolbox Ready–Starting Out...
Are you a waiting parent or one just recently united with your child? Are you thinking about adoption and are doing some research. Here are some guides that are good reading for you and your spouse.

Realistic Expectations Our 50 page e-book. Free download, just click the link and enter your email address.
It's the guide for newly home parents to get up to speed fast

Choosing an Agency by Lori Lammers with a foreword by Hollee McGinnes

A Different Perspective by Cynthia Hockman Chupp

What We Wish We Had Known edited by S.M. Macrae

Why Grandma Can't Pick Up the Baby by S.M. Macrae and Karleen Gribble

Top Ten Tips for Successful First Year Parenting
Attachment Based Activities to Create Connections from the Start
by Deborah Gray, MSW, MPA, author Attaching in Adoption

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The Jigsaw Puzzle Child
By Eileen Mayers Pasztor, DSW
This Article helps you understand emotional age vs chronological age in a child who has experienced trauma, depravation, or abuse. Reprinted from the new Foster Parenting Toolbox
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Are You at the End of Your Rope?
Help for New and Old Parents When Emotions Run High
(This pdf file is formatted for social workers and agencies to print and use in new or post adoptive parent packets.)

Baby Shock-Depression and International Adoption by Jean MacLeod

Post Adoption Depression–
How do We Cope With Ourselves and Parent as Well by S.M. Macrae

Welcome to Holland By Emily Perl Kingsley

For All the Little Girls from China by Penny Callan Partridge

The Practical Guide to Toddler Travel: What to Know, How to Go
(for kids from 1-4) by Kara Post

Disruption and Dissolution: Unspoken Losses
Edited by Sheena Macrae, with a foreword by Doris Landry

 

Toolbox for Talking About Adoption
When is the right time to start? What's the right thing to say? These guides will give you tools and ideas to work in your family.

Using Books to Open the Adoption Dialog by Jane Brown, MSW

Opening the Dialog by S. M. Macrae, PhD

Parenting With Narratives: The A, B, C's of Adoption Stories by Jean Macleod with a forward by Daniel A. Hughes, PhD

The Backwards Lifebook by Joy Rees
Using a Different Technique Makes a Book that is Accessible to all who Need to Use It.

Adoption Lifebook Do's and Don'ts by Beth O'Malley, MEd

Lifestory Work: The Next Level by Beth O'Malley MEd

My Experiences with Lifebooks by Carrie Kitze, Publisher EMK Press

A Sample Lifebook for a 6 year old

A Sample Lifebook for a Toddler (2-3)...the Baby Lifebook
this book uses just photos, you add the words as you learn the adoption talk and get comfortable with talking adoption to your child


Creating Attachment with Adopted Kids Through Lifebooks
This is a Creating a Family Podcast


Parent Guide for Pieces of Me
It's never too early to start thinking about the teen years...keep those lines of communication open!


Toolbox for Celebrating Family

Rituals and Ceremonies for Families Formed through Adoption
some ideas for creating family glue with simple words and candles...

Forever Fingerprints Entrustment Ceremony
Sherrie Eldridge has created this adoption ceremony idea pamphlet to use with an entrustment ceremony or adoption ceremony with known birthparents. What a wonderful lifebook addition for an adopted child to have forever fingerprints from birthparents. Click here to download additional Forever Fingerprint Sheets for a lifebook or memory book. Find out more about Forever Fingerprints

NEW!
Making a Family Glyph
An art activity for families touched by adoption.


Toolbox for Talking about Tough Topics With Your Child

Talking Truthfully About Adoption by Greg C. Keck, PhD

The Impact of Illegal Adoption on One Family by Julia Rollings

The Loss of a Dream, When a Country Closes to Adoptions from Abroad
by Sheena Macrae

Telling about Trafficking by Sheena Macrae


Double Traumatized Children from Haiti
podcast with Heather T. Forbes and Dr. Ronald Federici

 

Toolbox for Talking About Birthparents
Helping adoptive parents navigate how they feel about birthparents and how to listen to how your child feels.

Mother's Day and Our Mutual Families...Being part of more than one family, making sense of having more than one mother by Sheena Macrae

Dancing with Ghosts: Birthmother loss and the Adopted Child by Jean MacLeod

What Makes a Mother, What Makes a Mom....Celebrating Mother's Day edited by S.M. Macrae

Mother's Day Poem by Jennifer Wilson Pines

 

Toolbox for Parenting
Is it adoption or is it biology and how can you tell the difference? These resources help you to understand the layers adoption brings to the mix and to remind all of us of the joys of parenting.

ADOPTION PARENTING E-Group: This e-group provides a network of information, resources and insightful adoption parenting advice from professionals and from "parent experts". It's topic driven and the topics change every two weeks. Topics are archived and it has been a tremendous resource. You need to be parenting adopted or fostering children to be approved for membership. EMK Press sponsors this group.

Click to subscribe to adoptionparenting

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Classroom Strategies for Attachment Disordered Children
Oil and Water by Lawrence B Smith L.C.S.W. - C., L.I.C.S.W.

 

Discipline Strategies for Parents

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Discipline with an Adoption Twist by Deborah Moore
(based on the work of Doris Landry, MS with permission)

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Anger and Control Issues
Using Empathy to Reduce Anger Helps Parent and Child
By Christopher J. Alexander, PhD
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Discipline: Some Questions about Emotions, Acting Out and Discipline
by Sheena Macrae. A look at how emotions and tantrums can actually be a helpful thing...

Dealing with Emotional Triggers by Carrie Kitze
how understanding water and dirt piles can help you make better choices

Short Circuits: How Adoption Alone Does Not Heal a Hurt Child
by Heidi Holman
An adoptive mom's exploration of the neurological impact of trauma, neglect, and sensory deprivation

The ABCs of Back to School with FASD by Kari Fletcher

Icing on the Cake adoption-parenting your 5-10 year old by Jean MacLeod

The Inner World of the Adopted Child by Christopher J. Alexander, PhD

Is My Kid Normal? Seeking Therapy for an adopted child by Jean MacLeod

A Gift Only An Adoptee Can Give by Sherrie Eldridge

Attachment Problems: Subtle and Not-So Subtle Signs by Arthur Becker-Weidman, PhD

Words of Encouragement for Children and Teens by Homer Kiracofe, therapist and pastor

When a Child Dies: Living with Loss, Healing with Hope by Terra Trevor

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Therapeutic Parenting Podcasts
We stumbled on these terrific podcasts from Christine Moers. Many people talk about therapeutic parenting, but in these podcasts, she gives you some tools to help you figure out how to do this. She is a parent by birth and adoption and is parenting kids with RAD. She has a blog too...find it here. And a terrific sense of humor!

Therapeutic Parenting--Feelings

What to do When Our Kids are Stuck

The Power Of Your Voice

Therapuetic Parenting--Lying

 

Toolbox for Parenting A Different Race
Stepping outside our collective understanding and squarely into the shoes of those who look different from us is essential and necessary.

Preparing Our Children for Racisism by Frances Kai Hwa Wang, editor IMDiversity

The Multicultural Toolbox: Parenting Ideas for Asian-American Families
by Frances Kai Hwa Wang, editor IMDiversity

What is Transracial Adoption by Gail Steinberg and Beth Hall

Outside Difference, Inside Sameness an activity for children from
preK to 2nd grade to use with I Don't Have Your Eyes

 

Toolbox for Homeland Visits
Travel back to your child's country of origin takes preparation. What do you need to know to have a successful homeland visit?


The Impact of Birth Country Travel

by Becca Piper, Founder, Adoptive Family Travel

Preparing for a Homeland Visit: Returning to China with Your Adopted Child
by Jane Liedtke, PhD; OCDF Founder

Preparing for an Orphanage Visit: Is Your Child Ready? by Jean MacLeod

What's in an Orphanage File (FAQ's) by Jane Liedtke, PhD; OCDF Founder

Walking Down the Village Path by Jane Liedtke, PhD; OCDF Founder

Emotions and Birthcountry Visits by SM Macrae, PhD

 

Toolbox for Life, Legalities and the Press
Crossing the t's and dotting the i's, and helping others understand adoption.

Full Protection Under the Law
Wills Guardianship, Life Insurance, Re-Adoption, Citizenship by Tia Marsh

NEW!
Obtaining Proof of Citizenship for Foreign Born Adoptees
by C.J. Lyford, Esq.

Educating the Media...Creating a Better World for ALL Families
An Educational Packet from the Evan B. Donadson Adoption Institute

 

School resources:

Parent /School Guide Individual Education Plans – IEPs by Julie Beem
This guide takes you through the steps of IEPs with lots of suggestions on what to do and what not to do!

Check out our page of school resources and ideas here

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