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The Foster Parenting Toolbox

Realistic Expectations for Fostering Families
(free download)

The Foster Parenting Toolbox



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I am a new foster parent (or thinking about becoming one.)

Realistic Expectations for Fostering Families
(free download)
This 30 page guide offers information on a variety of subjects.

Ensuring family fit for foster families an article to help you decide if that foster child can work with your family.

Walk Me Home – fund-raising and awareness event for foster care in America

The Jigsaw Puzzle Child By Eileen Mayers Pasztor, DSW
This Article helps you understand emotional age vs chronological age in a child who has experienced trauma, depravation, or abuse. Reprinted from the Foster Parenting Toolbox

Lifelong Issues in Adoption
by Deborah N. Silverstein and Sharon Kaplan

Ten Things Foster Parents Wished Their Case Managers Knew by Mike Berry

CEU Quizzes for the Foster Parenting Toolbox

New placement and transitions for Foster children

First Night Strategies Words of wisdom from experienced foster parents...

Ensuring Family Fit for Foster Families Make sure that the placement you are considering fits your family.

Attachment Parenting of Older Children
This article helps you apply the principals of attchment parenting into school aged children
This website (started by Adoptive Moms Heidi Louella and Cynthia Hockman-Chupp) has a wealth of parent friendly resources in understanding attachment and how it impacts our children. It's worth a look.

Attachment Information and Adoption Issues
Attach-China is a website for all kinds of adoptions devoted to educating adoptive parents about the attachment needs of their children, and the issues faced by post-institutional adoptees. It includes current information on adoption parenting, bonding techniques, PTSD and Reactive Attachment Disorder. There is also an e-list for attachment issues.

Attachment and Trauma Network
Lots of great information here with articles and podcasts on trauma and the impact it has on attachment.

Center 4 Family Development
The Center for Family Development was founded by Dr. Arthur Becker-Weidman to provide answers to questions, solutions to problems, and the expert support necessary for families to thrive in these turbulent times. Lots of articles and resources.

Discipline and Trauma

Trauma Center
You will find a wealth of information – on clinical services, on training, consultation and education programs, and on Dr. van der Kolk and others' research and theories. Whether you are in therapy or a therapist, a student or a scholar, a lawyer or a judge, a representative of the media, you can learn a great deal here.

Discipline: Some Questions about Emotions, Acting Out and Discipline by Sheena Macrae. A look at how emotions and tantrums can actually be a helpful thing...

Dealing with Emotional Triggers by Carrie Kitze
How understanding water and dirt piles can help you make better choices

Lynne Namka's Angries Out
Everyone gets the angries. But sometimes they make us say and do things that we don't really mean. We can learn how to release those mads in safe ways, so that no one gets hurt and we feel better. This site has resources for kids and for the adults that love them.

The Case Against Time-out
by Peter Haiman, Ph.D.

Therapeutic Parenting Podcasts
We stumbled on these terrific podcasts from Christine Moers. Many people talk about therapeutic parenting, but in these podcasts, she gives you some tools to help you figure out how to do this. She is a parent by birth and adoption and is parenting kids with RAD. She has a blog too...find it here. And a terrific sense of humor!

Therapeutic Parenting--Feelings

What to do When Our Kids are Stuck

The Power Of Your Voice

Therapeutic Parenting--Lying


Why you need and finding support

Put Your Own Oxygen Mask First
By Susan Badeau

The National Foster Parent Association is a champion for the thousands of families that open their heart and their home to the over 400,000 children in out-of-home placement in the US.
NFPA believes in the importance of family-based care for foster children and that every child deserves a permanent family.

School Issues and IEP's/504's

Is My Child Ready for Kindergarten?
A ton of useful links and downloadable resources.

Parent /School Guide Individual Education Plans – IEPs

by Julie Beem
This guide takes you through the steps of IEPs with lots of suggestions on what to do and what not to do!
Website with comprehensive explanations of special education laws, including information on the reauthorization of IDEA 2004 and the impact of the various changes under this legislation.

12 Rules for Writing a Good Letter
When you write letters to the school, you want to express concerns and educate your reader about your child’s problems.
You want your letters to create a good first's how!

Oil and Water by Lawrence B Smith L.C.S.W. - C., L.I.C.S.W. Classroom Strategies for Attachment Disordered Children

The ABCs of Back to School with FASD by Kari Fletcher

Making a Family Glyph
An art activity for families touched by adoption or fostering.

Special Resources for Teachers

Operation Respect: Don't Laugh at Me
Dedicated to creating safe, caring and respectful environments for children includes some great resources and free tools for educators.

Overview of Reactive Attachment Disorder for Teachers
Includes information on control battles, when/how to involve parents, consequencing
by Arthur Becker-Weidman

The ABC's of Back to School with FASD
a check list created by a parent of a FASD child to give to her son's teacher to help understand his particular issues and how best to work with him.

The Alert Program
This program is for teaching self-regulation awareness.
(How Does Your Engine Run®)

Special Learning Resources

Scientific Learning
The Fast ForWord family of reading intervention products develops brain processing efficiency through intensive, adaptive software exercises.

CAPD-Central Auditory Processing Disorder
Living and Working with a Central Aduitory Processing Disorder
by Judith W. Paton, M. A., Audiologist

Resources and learning tools for Special Needs kids. Some wonderful resources and tools for motor skills, charts, lists and other things to get kids off with all the resources they need.

Boris Gindis
Center for Cognitive-Developmental Assessment & Remediation


When something is not quite right

Short Circuits: How Adoption Alone Does Not Heal a Hurt Child by Heidi Holman
An adoptive mom's exploration of the neurological impact of trauma, neglect, and sensory deprivation

The ABCs of Back to School with FASD by Kari Fletcher

Sensory Processing Network
The Sensory Processing Disorder Network (SPD Network) is a project of the KID Foundation, a nonprofit organization based in Littleton, Colorado. Lots of great links and resources for parents, teachers, and others who come in contact with children with SPD.

Sensory Integration Resources
Allison Martin, an adoptive parent, compiled this excellent list of sensory integration resources.

The Out of Sync Child
Author Carol Stock Cranowitz's website helping parents recognize and cope with sensory processing disorder.


Help for overwhelmed parents

Are You at the End of Your Rope?
Help for New and Old Parents When Emotions Run High
(This pdf file is formatted for social workers and agencies to print and use in new or post adoptive parent packets.)


Teens, identity and self esteem

Parent Guide for Pieces of Me
It's never too early to start thinking about the teen years...keep those lines of communication open!

Words of Encouragement for Children and Teens
by Homer Kiracofe, therapist and pastor


When a placement ends

Torn Hearts: When Foster Children Leave by Gail Valence

Disruption and Dissolution: Unspoken Losses
Edited by Sheena Macrae, with a foreword by Doris Landry

When a Child Dies: Living with Loss, Healing with Hope
by Terra Trevor







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